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How to Cope With Depression After a Break Up

Break-ups can be devastating. It's a rough transition from sharing every part of your life with someone, to picking up the phone and suddenly remembering you shouldn't call them. The depression that comes after a break-up can feel so heavy and difficult that no one else can possibly understand what you are going through. But there are ways to cope with this feeling that don't involved crying into a carton of ice cream. Here is a wikiHow guide to coping with the depression after a break up.


  1. Know this will take time.Especially if the relationship was long-term, this will be a difficult and probably a long process. Expect that, and give yourself as much time as you need to heal/recover.
  2. Understand the emotions that you are feeling are normal and embrace them.Don't beat yourself up - your feelings or anger/frustration and sadness are natural and normal.
    • Cry if you need to. Go ahead and cry, use a whole box of tissues and feel miserable for a while. It's okay. You're entitled. But eventually, you do need to pick yourself back up and move on. Life will go on, and believe it or not, so will you!
  3. Hide everything that it istoo difficultto see right now.Take everything that reminds you of your ex (pictures, letters, keepsakes) and put it all in a box. Then put the box someplace far away like high up in your closet. Don't throw it away - you may regret it later. Just keep it stored someplace safe, but don't keep re-reading and looking at it all right now and make yourself miserable. Just put it away for now and give yourself a break.
  4. Try to keep a regular schedule as best as you can.It's going to be hard at first, but you may have to force yourself to eat regular meals and sleep regularly. This too will take time, so be patient with yourself.
  5. Try to get your mind off of it.Go out and do something you enjoy, like a hobby you have always loved, whether it's biking or karate or drawing, playing guitar, etc. Make sure you are focusing on the activity and the joy that it brings you, thereby distracting yourself.
  6. Enjoy spending time with the people who are still in your life.Spend lots of time with your friends and family during this time. They will be your support system as you deal with the aftermath of the break-up. Did you see some of these people much during the relationship? If the relationship was intense and long-term, chances are you have not seen some of your friends or maybe even family for months. Take time to spend quality time with them and do something fun.
    • Make sure your friends and family know what happened, and ask them to be a support system for you, to help you through this difficult time.
  7. Accept the end of the relationship.Remember that the relationship happened for a reason, and nothing is ever wasted in life. Perhaps you learned a valuable lesson that you will be able to take with you into your next relationship and eventual marriage. Or perhaps you are only broken up for a short time and the relationship will be restored. Either way though, you must move on with your life.

Community Q&A

  • Question
    I can't eat, I don't have an appetite for anything. What can I do?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Eat what you can, be that Jello or pudding, dry toast, crackers, etc. It's normal to feel this way, your appetite will return in time.
  • Question
    We broke up last week, but I'm not able to come out of it. The more I'm trying to forget, the more it's hurting.
    Top Answerer
    It will take a lot more time than one week. Expect it to last a few months, but the feelings will go away sooner or later. In the meantime, talk to a psychologist.
  • Question
    Should I wait for her?
    Top Answerer
    The answer is, unfortunately, no. If you are at a point where you ask this question, the answer is almost always no.
  • Question
    I am receiving all the help I need here, but what makes things difficult for me is that we have a son together. He's 18 months old and he stays with me. Even more, im not the one who ended things.
    Top Answerer
    In time, things will become easier. Remember to try and keep your feelings towards your ex separate from your responsibilities and feelings for your child. Have fun with your son, take good care of him and continue working through your feelings caused by the breakup. Talk to a professional if you need to.
  • Question
    What can I do to make her stop thinking bout what happened?
    Top Answerer
    You never have any control of whatever anyone else is thinking. Let it go. You were never responsible for what she's thinking, neither during nor after the relationship.
  • Question
    What if you have gone through all seven steps but it still makes you feel like putting a bullet through your brain to end the actual pain? No matter what it feels like you're drowning in quicksand.
    Top Answerer
    Contact a psychologist and keep talking to them until this problem is resolved. Talk with someone you trust immediately and tell them how you feel.
  • Question
    Your steps are very comforting, but do you really think these methods can make me forget about someone and concentrate on other things? It's very hard to do. I tried my best but I still can't forget a single thing about her, which is making my life miserable.
    Top Answerer
    You must trust that in time these feelings will become less and less. It's okay to remember her. Surely you spent some good times together and you have fond memories of those days. It's okay to remember those from time to time. Our good memories are a big part of what makes us happy. In time, this will become less and less.
  • Question
    Why am I still feeling depressed even though I've stopped caring about what my ex is doing?
    Top Answerer
    These feelings will pass; give it time. Talk to a psychologist in the meantime. Unfortunately there isn't really anything else you can do to speed up the process.
  • Question
    She was my dream girl, what do I do now?
    Top Answerer
    Give it time, the pain will go away and wounds will heal. Though it may not seem like it right now, it will pass. Now that you know what you want in a woman, find a new one that meets your criteria.
  • Question
    It's been two years since my relationship ended and I've been past the alcohol-depression stage for almost a year. I drank, did drugs and other fun stuff before my relationship, and I've been doing those things again, while at the same time resenting my lack of control. I know I can do better because I have done better! I want to find love again! What should I do?
    Top Answerer
    Give it more time. Take care of your physical and mental health. Trust that you will find love again.
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  • Don't call/text the other person - give them space! In that time, he/she may realize what they are missing and want to get back together. Either way, you don't want to look desperate by constantly calling/texting. That will only drive them further away.
  • Expect that it will take you a long time before you are ready to date again. Don't jump into a relationship with the first cute guy/girl you meet, or you'll be rebounding - and that's not healthy for you or the new person. Give yourself time to heal and process what happened in a healthy way.
  • Expect that the other person may call/text you and want to get back together, perhaps out of loneliness... but ask yourself if this is really what you want, or if you are ready to experience a healthier or better relationship
  • No matter what you think right now, you WILL find someone new - there are so many people out there, and who knows if your Mr. or Ms. Right is just waiting to be found. It doesn't seem like it now, but there are many others out there whom you would be compatible with. Someday you will meet someone else who is exciting/fun/wonderful, and believe it or not - your memories of your ex will soon fade.
  • Just because you are experiencing a break-up does not mean that you are a terrible person or that you did anything wrong (or that the other person is bad, either). You are just not right for each other.
  • Getting a food you like (ice cream, cookies, etc) sometimes helps (especially for the ladies) - just don't overdo it and gain a lot of weight - it's not worth it!
  • Given enough time, consider that you can still be on friendly terms / be friends with your ex. However, this may take months or even years, and will probably only occur after both of you have really moved on.
  • Never let the past interfere into your future. It will only bring you memories of the past, and thus causing your depression from the last breakup to return. Cope with the future and move on living your life.
  • If you have left him remember that you broke up for a certain reason. It was your decision and you didn't wanna stick to that trait of his for your personal irritation. Keep in mind that when a relationship dies another can rise sooner or later.


  • Don't sleep with someone / hook up with someone just because you are lonely or feel alone. Invite a friend over or do something you love and that makes you happy instead. The consequences are not worth that momentary feeling of pleasure, and you will only feel more lonely in the end. So do something positive instead.

Things You'll Need

  • A box of tissues (or just let the tears flow)
  • A hobby or something you enjoy doing, that you can focus all your energy and attention on during this hard time
  • An empty box to put all the photos/memories in (do not look at them right now, and don't throw away)

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